WEDDING NIGHTS

Stop asking “How was anyone's wedding night”? Or Sex Stories, Very shamefully so it has become a norm to boast and talk about ones sex life infront of friends. Especially after the wedding night everyone gathers and asks "how was it" and brides and grooms describe it to their friends shamelessly.

In some cultures the men wait outside the bedroom till the groom tosses out his shirt or bedsheet with the blood of his bride proving she was virgin! Astaghfirullah like infinite times! Eyuuuuuuuu cringes and shudders

I remember nearly 3 sisters casually dropped the information of their sex lifes infront of me before I could realise what happened and I could stop them.

Please dont do that. It is mentally scarring, unislamic and downright disgusting. 

And when I did realise I told them not to tell me such things in future ever. You will most probably get a response "but I am educating you!" Tell them I will get educated through books and seerah of Prophet. Sadly many make it an ego issue or call you over sensitive if you donot listen.

No one wants to know how you did it or how many times you did.

Sex is not something animalistic in Islam.

It is a spiritual and intimate relationship. If your friends are telling you their sex stories stop them and don't be shy or embarrassed to be upfront about it.

Pleasing Allah should take precedence over pleasing people.

Subhan'Allah look at what Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said about this very issue.

It was reported from Asmaa’ bint Yazeed that she was with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and men and women were sitting with him, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Would any man say what he did with his wife? Would any woman tell others what she did with her husband?” The people kept quiet and did not answer. I [Asmaa’] said: “Yes, by Allaah, O Messenger of Allaah, they (women) do that, and they (men) do that.” He said, “Do not do that. It is like a male devil meeting a female devil in the road and having intercourse with her whilst the people are watching.”

(Narrated by Abu Dawood, no. 1/339; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 143).

DUTY OF HUSBAND AND WIFE

 A wife’s most important duty is to contribute to as much as possible to the success of her marriage. She should be a source of comfort for her husband, a devoted supporter and adviser.

“Our Lord! Grant us wives and offspring who will be the joy and comfort of our eyes, and guide us to be models of righteousness.”

[Qu’ran 25:74]

A wife should obey her husband but this does not mean that she should be subservient to him. As Islam places upon the husband the role of head of the family, so the wife is the head of the household. Such an arrangement makes for a partnership of co-operation and a man is expected to consult his wife for her opinion on household and family matters.

An Islamic wife is expected to be faithful, to her husband and to Allah (Subhaanahu Wa Taala), and also trustworthy. A wife should make herself attractive to her husband, just as he should make an effort to look his best for her, and not deny her husband sexual relations unless she has a reason for doing so. Physical intimacy is as important as emotional intimacy.

A wife’s obedience to her husband does not mean at all costs, particularly if he goes against the teachings of the Qur’an. Also, a husband is obliged to treat his wife kindly, and if he does not do so, if he is controlling or abusive – whether physically or emotionally – it is no reflection on how good a wife you are. You have the right to protection and you should not have to suffer in silence.

REMEMBER THIS

 Marriage is something that will happen when Allah Subhanahuwa ta’ala wills. So keep trying to find a righteous spouse and leave the rest to Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. Don’t get depressed and don’t lose hope. Always remember Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala plans are better than our wishes. Marriage is not the purpose of life; it’s a mean to get closer to Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. This is the best time to work on your relationship with Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. As you get married your responsibilities will also get increased. So prepare yourself for that responsibility, gain Islamic knowledge, and read about the rights of husband, wife and children because when you say yes for the marriage, you have agreed that you are ready to take the responsibility. Remember this life is a test and we are all tested through different trials. It’s also a test that you have to abstain yourself from haram and be patient.

Make lots of dua and while asking Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala always say “if it’s good for me” because we don’t know what’s good for us only Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala knows. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala loves us more than our mother so His decisions are always for our own good and we have to trust Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.

“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (Quran 2:216)

Always remember this:

“No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself for the outcome of all affairs is determined by the decree of Allah. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come on your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee.”Umar ibn al Khattab (Radi Allahu Ta’ala Anhu)

I hope it will be helpful. May Allah SWT guide us to the straight path. Ameen

LOVE BEFORE NIKAH

This article is about Relationship with non mehram/Love before Marriage...

Right is Right even no one is doing it and Wrong is Wrong even if everyone is doing it.. So Haram is Haram no matter how widely accepted or practice it is...

So love before marriage is haram, Relationship with any non mehram is totally haram in Islam...

Talking, chatting with any non mehram is prohibited in Islam... No matter how much someone is important for you, or how much you both love with each other...

Without Nikah it's Haram, it's Haram. Don't please your Nafs.. The pleasure of Nafs is temporary.. But the grief, sorrows and guilt lasts forever, because we are committing Sin, because we are disobeying Allah and His rules.

Allah says in Quran: "And of everything We have created pairs".

Then why everyone is so hasty today?

Does He/She can't wait for the Halal one?

Does He/She can't for the one whom Allah has chosen already for him/her?

Do they not believe in Allah's promise that like other things He created you in pairs also..

In Quran Allah says : "And We have created you in pairs".

Is this statement is not enough for you?

Who can be the most True and accurate in His statement except Allah? Indeed No one.

Than why every man and woman is in so hurry and become involved in haram relation...

Let me clear one thing that Islam is not against liking or loving someone. Falling in love isn’t haram, it’s what you do with that love that makes it haram or halal. Islam just set some rules and created some limits, even Islam gives permission to man choose the women he likes for nikah. In Islam even women has permission to like someone and can propose him if she likes him..

We just need to understand the limits and then proceed.. And these limits are in our benefits.

If you love/like someone then first make dua and after dua do istekhara.. If after istekhara you get positive answer from Allah then do your best for marrying him/her. Insha'Allah, Allah will help you. Allah will make a way for you.

Do Nikah, Nikah is Sunnah, The Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alahi Waali Wasalam said, "Nikah is my Sunnah and one is who disobey my Sunnah does not belong to me.."

True love starts after Nikah...

Let me clear one thing more, in Islam it is not allowed that any 2 non mehram talk with each other with the hope of Nikah, that one day we will be together, so keep on contacting and talking..

No ,No it is not allowed in Islam..

Islam says if you like someone than do Nikah...

And if you are engaged, you are still non mehram for each other. You have to follow these rules...

Allah's plans are best, we have to trust in Allah... Allah does not do anything before time nor after time, He does what He wants to do at the proper and exact time..

Just wait for the right time, right moment and for the right person. Allah will make a way one day.

No need to worry about your future, just Pray + Struggle and leave it on Allah and keep calm. Leave your Haram relationship for Allah than surely Allah will give you what you want and what's best for you.

As a Muslim it is our duty to follow Allah's rules, follow Prophet's Sunnah then our life in this world and in the next world as well would be great... Insha'Allah.

If you were at wrong path then don't worry Allah's Mercy is very vast... Allah's love is greater than you could imagine... Just come back to Allah and seek His forgiveness..Indeed Allah is most Forgiving and Most Merciful.

DUTY OF WOMEN

 A wife’s most important duty is to contribute to as much as possible to the success of her marriage. She should be a source of comfort for her husband, a devoted supporter and adviser.

“Our Lord! Grant us wives and offspring who will be the joy and comfort of our eyes, and guide us to be models of righteousness.”

[Qu’ran 25:74]

A wife should obey her husband but this does not mean that she should be subservient to him. As Islam places upon the husband the role of head of the family, so the wife is the head of the household. Such an arrangement makes for a partnership of co-operation and a man is expected to consult his wife for her opinion on household and family matters.

An Islamic wife is expected to be faithful, to her husband and to Allah (Subhaanahu Wa Taala), and also trustworthy. A wife should make herself attractive to her husband, just as he should make an effort to look his best for her, and not deny her husband sexual relations unless she has a reason for doing so. Physical intimacy is as important as emotional intimacy.

A wife’s obedience to her husband does not mean at all costs, particularly if he goes against the teachings of the Qur’an. Also, a husband is obliged to treat his wife kindly, and if he does not do so, if he is controlling or abusive – whether physically or emotionally – it is no reflection on how good a wife you are. You have the right to protection and you should not have to suffer in silence.

SOCIAL MEDIA

Keep Your Personal Life Private.

1. Don't advertise your happy marriage on social media 

2. Don't advertise your kids achievements on Social media 

3. Don't advertise your expensive buys on social media Reality is... 

1. Not everyone is going to be happy for you 

2. Most of the "Nice" comments you get are just fake 

3. You will only attract the evil eye on you and your family 

4. You are attracting jealous people in your life 

5. You don't know who is saving your pictures and checking your updates 

6. You really need to stop this because it may ruin your life, family, marriage and career. 

Social Media is the devils eyes, ears and mouth, don't fall in to the devils trap. Let your private life remain private.

BEAUTY OF A WOMEN

 A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?"

"Because I need to" she said.

"I don't understand," he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will."

Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"

"All women cry for no reason," his dad answered carelessly.

The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh (scholar). "He surely knows the answer", he thought. "Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?"

The Shaikh answered: "When Allah made the woman she had to be made so special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. He gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that comes from her children. He gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her very badly. He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers."

"You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.”

The little boy got the answer and never asked the question again.

May Allah SWT bless all mothers and give them strength to be strong. Ameen

PROTECT YOUR NIKAH

Cellphones, Facebook and WhatsApp can bless or break marriages. Used within the proper parameters of marriage, these can greatly enhance communication between husband and wife. Unfortunately many marriages have failed because of the inappropriate use of cellphones, Facebook and WhatsApp. Protect your marriage, respect your spouse and do not lead yourself into temptation. Avoid secret communications and intimate conversations and private chatting with people of the opposite sex. Be accountable to one another. Unless you're married to a paranoia, have an open cellphone policy with your spouse. If you must have a password on your phone or computer let your spouse know about it. You and your spouse are one. There is absolutely no business or conversation that your spouse should not know about. Openness builds trust.

HUSBAND AND WIFE

The best relationship of husband wife is when you two can act like lovers and best friends.

When you have more playful moments than serious ones.

When you can joke around, have unexpected hugs and random kisses.

When you two give each other that specific stare and just smile.

When you'll stay up all night just to settle your arguments and problems.

When you can completely act yourself and they still love you for who you are.